If you do your best, there is no way to judge yourself. And if you don`t condemn yourself, you won`t suffer guilt, guilt, and self-punishment. If you did your best and your inner judge is trying to judge you, you replied, „I did my best.“ There are no regrets. That`s why we always do our best. It`s not an easy deal to stick to, but this deal will really set you free. The first agreement, irreproachable with your word, is all you need to create a good life. It will take them to heaven, but you may need help with this deal. If you don`t take anything personally, if you don`t make assumptions, you can imagine that it`s easier to be blameless with your word. If you don`t make assumptions, it`s easier not to take anything personally and vice versa. By not taking anything personally and not making assumptions, you are supporting the first agreement. First of all, it is important to understand that your best is not a constant; It will vary. Sometimes you are fresh and vital; Other times you`re tired.
Sometimes you are healthy and sometimes sick. Your best is what you can do in your current circumstances. Whatever happens around you, don`t take it personally. Here`s an example from the book: „When I see you on the street and say, `Hey, you`re so stupid` without knowing you, it`s not about you; It`s about me. If you take it personally, you may think you`re stupid. Maybe you`re thinking, „How does she know that? Is she clairvoyant or can everyone see how stupid I am? He said, „Even if one situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give correspond to the agreements they have in their minds. If you try to get someone to love you, it drains your energy. And it doesn`t work. If you ask for people`s acceptance, it deprives you. When you move mountains and try to impress your boss (who doesn`t realize it), you feel depressed. It`s a forced effort and it doesn`t feel good. The third chord sounds simple, but it`s pretty difficult because we`re so used to doing the opposite.